So anyone else love the movie Frozen? Our family la-la-loves this movie! We've seen it at least three times, we regal each other with reciting vignettes from the movie and it seems our family goal is to commit the CD to memory! It has been great learning for our kids (7 and 5) about vulnerability, shame, and connection. Which got me thinking, Frozen is a GREAT illustration for this Daring Greatly work. Both are all about being true to ourselves and God's working in our lives, being real, connecting with others, knowing the difference between belonging and fitting in, and being courageous.
Here are some links we've made in our family - if you haven't seen the movie, I don't think these are spoilers :)
Do You Want to Build a Snowman? (I about cry every time I hear this song) is multiple bids for connection.
The power of fear to grow/perpetuate shame and disconnection - the King and Queen's response to Elsa's power.
"For the First Time in Forever" before the coronation Anna sings, "for the first time in forever, I won't be alone." Anna talks about her life a series of closed doors - she wants connection! Isolation is very dangerous for our souls.
"For the First Time in Forever" reprise when Elsa and Anna are together in the ice castle- the connection to Brené Brown saying, "our capacity to be open hearted is never greater than our capacity to be brokenhearted" AND then think what happens to Anna at the end of the song.
The Trolls sing in Fixer Upper "People make bad choices when they're mad or scared or stressed." isn't that the truth! We lose our authentic space. And what's not to love about singing trolls in the first place? This song screams it's ok to be imperfect, love doesn't demand perfection.
And of course, how Elsa's power grows when there is fear . . . culture of scarcity, shame, perfectionism grow in fear.
So maybe you know Frozen but not a lot about shame resiliency or wholehearted living practices. If you know Frozen, you've got a great starting point!